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Dear Joan:\u00a0<\/em><\/strong>What do you do with an overly involved founder and an under-involved board?<\/em><\/p>\n

– Development Director who knocks and no one answers<\/em><\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

Dear Knocker:\u00a0<\/strong>Ah, the blessing and the curse of a founder. You are far from alone. Trust me.<\/p>\n

Of course, there are many thoughtful founders who care about the legacy of the organization and attempt to build an organization to last.<\/p>\n

Then there are the rest. You know, the ones where the organization is integrally (and dysfunctionally) linked to the founder’s personal identity.<\/p>\n

When the latter is true, everyone else plays second fiddle. Tough situation.<\/p>\n

So what to do?<\/p>\n

Sometimes it can help to create some other\u00a0entity that you can offer to take the lead on. Start building the next generation of board members with a Young Professionals or Leaders Advisory board. Work with them independently of your founder and see how that goes.<\/p>\n

Do some psychological introspection about the motivations of your founder. Is the founder over-involved by habit? If so, there is hope to offer to take work off the founder’s\u00a0plate. S\/he might thank you for it.<\/p>\n

But if it is all about ego (and this is pretty common), don\u2019t fight it. Instead, work with it. Change the framing. Talk\u00a0about how the founder\u00a0deserves<\/em>\u00a0a great board that is fully engaged; that’s part of her team. Perhaps the founder doesn’t really know what a good board looks like.<\/p>\n

Perhaps this will help: Here’s What a Great Board Looks Like<\/a><\/p>\n

– Joan<\/p>\n

\n

The Headless Board<\/h3>\n

Dear Joan:\u00a0<\/em><\/strong>I am a board member who sees no leadership coming from our chair. He has delegated the running of the meetings to the executive director. Meanwhile the Executive Director acts as if she is intruded on if we ask questions. And she often explains things in a way we cannot understand.<\/em><\/p>\n

– Board Member on a Headless Board<\/em><\/p>\n

Dear Headless:\u00a0<\/strong>I worked with a board last year \u2013 they thought the E.D. was supposed<\/span><\/em> to run the meetings. So at least you know the basics.<\/p>\n

You know the obvious answer to this question, right? Your instincts are solid, you seek out resources to be a good board member, you ask questions to folks like me.<\/p>\n

YOU SHOULD BE THE BOARD CHAIR! <\/em>I\u2019d vote for you right now.<\/p>\n

So maybe that is not an option.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you are not understanding the work of the organization and cannot ask smart, insightful questions, guess what? YOU ARE AN IRRESPONSIBLE BOARD MEMBER!<\/p>\n

The E.D. is not the problem here. The board chair is the problem. He is not providing supervision, direction to the E.D. so that he knows what is expected of him\u00a0in his\u00a0interactions with the board.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t be alone here. Other board members feel the same way. Gotta. So get a group together and approach the board chair. One of you needs to offer to run for chair.<\/p>\n

And your passion for the organization has to trump your fear of a difficult conversation.<\/p>\n

And if you’re not 100% certain how a board meeting should be run, here’s a sample board agenda<\/a>.<\/p>\n

– Joan<\/p>\n

\n

Stop Interfering With the Staff<\/h3>\n

Dear Joan:\u00a0<\/em><\/strong>I\u2019m the new board president of a nonprofit and I can\u2019t get it through our board members\u2019 thick skulls that they shouldn\u2019t interfere with the day to day operations of the staff. We talk about it all the time. I\u2019ve even brought in someone to train the board on the role of the board vs. staff and nothing is sinking in.<\/em><\/p>\n

Recently, a board member had a great idea for something that was a staff function. I encouraged him to suggest it to senior staff; he wanted it as a board meeting agenda item. Now he\u2019s mad.<\/em><\/p>\n

– Chair of Thick Headed Board<\/em><\/p>\n

Dear Board Chair:\u00a0<\/strong>First off, take consolation that thousands of readers just read this and said \u201cCan s\/he please be on my<\/span> board. You have, by virtue of fighting this good fight with the thick heads, illustrated that you are a rock star board chair.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s only one problem. You have no rock star board members.<\/em><\/p>\n

If you are as smart, capable and passionate about your organization as you seem, it\u2019s time to stop banging your head against those thick skulls and work with your executive director and development staff to identify new board members who really understand their governance role. If you start now to bring in a new “class” of great board members, that group will, in a year\u2019s time, begin to lead with you.<\/p>\n

And the folks who get mad? They will leave and go find another board where they can pretend to be staff.<\/p>\n

If you’re not sure how to do it, here are some tips: How to Build the Board You Want<\/a><\/p>\n

– Joan<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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